Keeping the Fire in the Bedroom
So, for the next few weeks I want to do a series about SEX and how to keep it fresh in the marriage relationship! Keep an eye out and get ready to take some notes!
If you’ve been married for any length of time you know how your sex life can suffer as time passes. Where once we ran around the house naked, making love every chance we could-now we lay around in worn out PJ’s staring at our phones not talking to each other. Something happened to us after we got "comfortable" and start having them babies. It’s not like it’s a big mystery why this happens. Am I right? The relationship begins to lose its thrill somewhere between the I ‘do’s and the ride home. We don’t mean for it to happen, but that doesn’t stop life from sucking the fun out of us. Marriage is like an experiment gone wrong. Somehow two different species managed to connect and BAM- when they collide…Entire worlds are destroyed.
Men and women are seriously living in two completely different realities. For the most part anyway. Women sap around and complain to each other that their husbands aren’t romantic enough. They watch Hollywood fairytales and compare their husbands to the fake men on the big screen that were probably written into existence by a woman anyways. While men pout to their friends that they aren’t getting enough sex and that their wives don’t respect them. Women want fresh flowers men want hot sex. It’s that simple.
I know-I know. Not all women/men fit in to these categories completely but deep down inside there is a bit of truth to all of it. I'm an overachiever-- I want it all! Fresh flowers and hot sex. Who’s with me?
Sex isn’t talked about enough in the Christian circles. So, to spice things up a bit, I’m doing this series. I know marriage isn’t only about sex, but it is a major factor if you want to stay married. Especially if your partner has an active sex drive. And why not enjoy it? God gave us this great gift to enjoy with our spouses.
Over the next few weeks I’m going to give you a few examples of things you can do to bring the fire back to the bedroom!! Today’s topic is…. drum roll…. sexting!! You heard that right people. I know that pornography is wrong but when it’s your body that you are sharing with your spouse, it can’t get more right! Especially for your man! If you put some effort in to making your husband’s fantasies come true, he will start working harder to please you! I even got a poem this week! And my husband is not a poet--at all!!
You see, men are visual creatures. They can get turned on very easily by what they see. And for those whose wives aren’t making sex a priority for them, they have a harder time keeping their minds out of the gutter, no matter how spiritual they are. Don’t you dare blame them either. Everywhere they look they are bombarded by sexual images. It’s your job to keep that man satisfied!
So, why not give him something to look at that he doesn’t have to feel guilty about-YOU!! Put on some sexy lingerie or better yet, get naked, and have some fun! I don’t care how old you are, your husband will love the effort. Use a filter if you have to-Hollywood does it-, try taking pics from different angles until you are pleased with it. Send that baby over the airwaves and see what happens. And don’t just send pics. Tell your man what you want to do to him when he gets home. Tell him what you wish he was doing to you. Unleash your inner vixen!! Your husband will be so thrilled that you are thinking about pleasing him sexually that he won’t be able contain himself, and you can bet that he will join in! Believe me… it works!
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