Safeguarding Your Marriage-Identifying Your Weakness
Hi friends! Happy Monday! I hope all of you had an amazing weekend. I'm going to start out this week talking about safeguarding your marriage.
I think a lot of times we get so comfortable in our busy schedules that we don't take enough time to slow down and examine our lives. With work, kids, errands, family outings, sporting and church events, our marriages usually get put on the back burner.
As with anything worth having, you have to carve out the time. I promise, any effort you make in this area will be worth it.
Not only do our marriages get tossed aside y'all, our own mental state of mind gets fuzzy with all the other things that tug at us daily. Some of the restraints we had on our old attitudes and desires get loosened and we unknowingly begin to let our guard down in areas we used to be so diligent about keeping locked up. This is a very vulnerable place to hang out.
That's where I want to begin today. If we want to have healthy, Godly marriages, we have to be able to identify our weaknesses, so we can be diligent about protecting ourselves from them. You may have trouble with anger, pride, unforgiveness, sexual perversion, drugs or alcohol addiction, or even lying. If you have read my previous posts on marriage you know that I struggle with sexual stuff. I think many of you, if you are honest, deal with a lot of the same issues. After all, we were given a sex drive from our creator. It's not wrong to have those desires, but it is wrong to indulge in them outside of marriage.
Many of you have reached out to me privately that struggle with this sin. After talking with all of you, I can see the devil at work far more than ever before. Make no mistake, he is out to destroy your marriage and your family. It is so important to take inventory on your own thinking -get the weeds out of the garden- be diligent about bringing every thought captive(2 Corinthians 10:5) You see, it's not just about the weakness. Whether it's sexual, prideful, addictive, ect... Our weaknesses hold us back, destroy our relationships, ruin our reputations, and ultimately hold us in bondage.
It is freeing to be able to openly identify a weakness, look it straight in the eye, and take control. When we know the areas that we struggle it's much easier to resist the temptation to fall in those areas.
We don't always want to face the weak areas of our lives. Sometimes it's dirty, sometimes it's mean and ugly -know this- sin always is! Any part of you that has not been washed clean by the blood of Jesus is filthy! It's time we face our demons and take a stand for our marriages and lives.
Here's the fun part. Just because you identify a weakness, it doesn't magically go away. We aren't living in a fairy-tale people! For most of us, it takes daily diligence. Daily putting that desire aside and choosing #Jesus. Once we identify a #weakness, we gain power over it. If you are on a diet and your weakness is donuts, it doesn't take a rocket scientist to know that you don't keep them in your pantry. Why? Because they are a temptation.
It's the same way with anything else. If you are addicted to porn- stop bringing your phone to bed with you. Only look online in the presence of others-never get alone with the #temptation. There is something about being alone that makes us do things that we wouldn't if we were being watched. We all need accountability, especially in the #marriage relationship. If you find yourself lying to your spouse or getting angry, or whatever it is that is threatening your relationship, get to the bottom of it. Get alone with your thoughts, and spend some time taking inventory of your life. Ask yourself--IS IT WORTH IT?-- Let me answer that for you-- It's not!!
As with all my posts, I hope I made you think. Our marriages are worth the effort, y'all. If you don't believe me, just ask a child who is living in the wake of #divorce- pulled back and forth between homes, their entire life turned on its head.
I realize some marriages are causing more than just superficial pain through physical abuse, and I don't encourage you stay in those relationships. As in all situations, trust God and He will see you through.