The Big -O-
I hope everyone had a great week and tried out the first tip in my blog series- Keeping the Fire Burning in the Bedroom. Click on the link if you missed it to catch up. I received some fun stories from several of you that tried it out! Way to go! Keep up the good work.
Marriage is hard work and keeping things exciting is even harder but experimenting to see what works for your relationship can be lots of fun!
This week I’m going straight to the heart of the matter. The Big O- and all its glory! After all, if your having sex without one, you might as well not be doing it at all. Am I right, ladies?
I’ve had the pleasure of speaking with many women over the years about their sex lives, and I’ve come to the conclusion that many of you are getting the short end of the stick. No wonder sex isn’t that big a deal for you. You are only getting a piece of the prize. You could probably win an Oscar for your acting skills but in the long run it's actually you that is missing out. If you have to fake your orgasms, then you are to blame.
Men are generally idiots unless they’ve been taught. That is clear by the fact that they believe in your Oscar winning performances on a regular basis. (HAHA) They don’t require as much tuning up as we do and if you let them off the hook by moaning and applauding their less than desirable attempts to please you then you deserve to be left unsatisfied. You are the only one that can fix it. All women are different with different desires and we all have our own paths that lead to an amazing climax. Men, like I said before are mostly clueless. They are like cave men when it comes to sex. “Me want sex.” All they require is friction against the penis in order to get off, therefore many of them think that if they just pound you hard enough you will swoon. Men-men-men take my advice- if you are doing that, your partner is faking.
I don’t know the actual percentage of women that confess to faking orgasms overall but, in my experience, with the women that I talk to, I’d say 95% would be a close guess. That is so sad. It’s sad for you ladies and sad for your clueless husbands. Good sex is such an important part of the marriage relationship, so today I’m going to give you some tips on how to close the gap between faking your orgasm and having your mind blown in the bedroom.
Proverbs 5:19 says- KJV- Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe; let her breasts satisfy thee at all times; and be thou ravished always with her love.
I threw this one in for all you Jesus girls. God wants your body to satisfy your spouse at all times. It’s ok to allow your man to be intoxicated by your love and your breasts!! Some religious chicks try to say that the “girls” are only for breastfeeding, well this scripture proves y’all wrong. They are for your man too! The only problem is you’ve got to teach him what to do with them!
Now, I’m not advocating masturbation, but I do think that we as women need to be aware of what makes our toes curl. How will our men ever know what pleases us if we don’t even know ourselves? I say get to know your body. Ask your spouse to play along. Spend some time exploring each other. Make a commitment that under no circumstances will you fake your way out of sex any longer. It’s not fair to you. If you don’t like something he’s doing. Don’t nag him. Just gently lead him to where he needs to be. Don’t be afraid to tell him what you want him to do or not do. I’m pretty sure he will appreciate it because once he finds your “G- Spot, you’ll be a better lover too! If you play your cards right and be honest with him about what works and what doesn’t, you will find yourself screaming in ecstasy and this time it will be for real!
Like I said before all women are different, but a good place to start is to find your clit!! I actually had someone tell me this week that they didn’t even know what it was! It’s your magic button ladies! Once you figure out how to make it work for you, you will finally understand what all the fuss has been about!
I hope everyone has an extra spicy week!! Stay tuned next week for some more tips on keeping that fire burning in the bedroom. As always, happy reading.