The Truth About Temptation
I’m back this week to talk to you about temptation and the marriage relationship.
Let’s be honest. Temptation is everywhere! I don’t care if you are a nun or a preacher. I don’t care if you live out in the middle of the woods or on a deserted island. Every person on this planet faces some form of temptation.
I want to start off first by saying that you don’t need to feel condemned just because your mind wanders off to the wrong place sometimes. Being tempted is not a sin but acting on it is. Jesus himself was even tempted.
(NIV) Hebrews 4:15- For we do not have a high priest who is unable to empathize with our weakness, but we have one who has been tempted in EVERY way, just as we are—yet he did not sin.
Also, in Luke chapter 4 we see more scripture that describes Jesus being tempted by the devil. If you read verse 1-13 you will see how the devil waited until Jesus was at his weakest physically before he pressed in to tempt him. Then retreated only temporarily- lying in wait for another opportunity.
It’s the same way with us. The devil comes at us when we are weak and vulnerable. That can look different for all of us. I’m only talking about temptation in the marriage right now, but it works the same in every area.
I know I keep saying this in my posts, but I’m amazed at how many of you are struggling in your marriage. I can totally see how this is happening though.
We work all the time. Then are busy with all our activities, sports, church, and regular chores around the house. The TV shows we are addicted to take up our family time in the evening and our cell phones replace intimacy in the bedroom. Can any of you relate?
You know it's true. After a few weeks of “life” we realize that we’ve hardly seen our spouse for more than a few minutes alone, much less had the time or energy to get crazy in the bedroom. For most women (not all-some, like me, are the exception) but for most, you don’t really mind the lack of sex, but you do mind the lack of emotional intimacy that comes from spending time alone with your spouse. Neither area should be left ignored.
Both parties have an innate desire for intimacy, whether sexual or emotional. If left unmet, it becomes a weak place- and vulnerability ensues.
This is when we and our husbands are more likely to look elsewhere to meet our needs. Most of the time this is completely innocent to start but soon turns on us when we least expect it.
Don’t be deceived into thinking that this won’t happen to you. It is the devil’s mission to destroy you and that includes your marriage and children.
(MEV) 1 Corinthians 10:12- says-Therefore let him who thinks he stands take heed, lest he fall.
I love the Message translation--
(MSG) 10:12—Don’t be so naïve and self-confident. You’re not exempt. You could fall flat on your face as easily as anyone else.
That’s pretty plain!! So, let’s stop acting like we are so holy and start guarding our hearts properly.
Sex is fun and hot and the closest thing to heaven we have here on earth. Not just because it makes our toes curl but because of the closeness we feel to our spouse during intercourse. It’s that moment of two souls becoming one flesh, that complete surrender, that takes us to a place of serenity. Sexual temptation is also the number one area that tears marriages apart.
Sexual intimacy is different from every other relationship we have, and it is designed only for marriage. When we allow our temptations to move outside of our marriage we invite someone else to share our bed and believe me three’s a crowd! You don’t even have to actually “do the deed” to bring them to bed with you. When we are weak and vulnerable our imaginations tend to run wild.
I encourage you today to start guarding your hearts. Make your time with your spouse a priority, have sex like you mean it and never stop communicating! If you have been getting too close and comfortable with the opposite sex, put an end to it now. Expose it for what it is-sin!!!
The very definition of temptation is to desire to do something wrong or unwise. It's time we realize that although the grass may be greener on the other side, it still has weeds! No relationship is perfect, but I believe with a little effort, every marriage has the potential to thrive!
I made a quiz for you to take to see if you’re walking too close to the line. This is just a quick questionnaire for you personally to make sure you are guarding your own heart properly. If you see that you need to make some changes then begin to do so. Your marriage is worth fighting for! Stop by sincerelyjamie.com and subscribe to download your free quiz today!!
Happy reading- until next time-